Some of us will set a high standard on our “special friend”. Maybe, we want him/her to be smart, funny, polite, or maybe have a high spiritual life. But, what i’ve experienced, when we set this standard, believe me, there will be many conflict happened.
You set a standard, you want him/her to do it, when he/she cannot do it, you become angry, and it counts at the other way. What happened?
I realized that a relationship is not about making your mate to be like what you want, but our ego is the main reason this conflict happened. It is us who must let the standard down below, and receive any condition that happened. It counts with the other way.
When we know this, we will be a gentle person, and even he/she will acknowledge our change and become change too. Try it!
You set a standard, you want him/her to do it, when he/she cannot do it, you become angry, and it counts at the other way. What happened?
I realized that a relationship is not about making your mate to be like what you want, but our ego is the main reason this conflict happened. It is us who must let the standard down below, and receive any condition that happened. It counts with the other way.
When we know this, we will be a gentle person, and even he/she will acknowledge our change and become change too. Try it!
