In every aspect of ourselves, if we talk about relationship, we are not talking about one person, but two person(and at the end will become one). The steps are:
- To know.
- To receive.
- To forgive.
- To adapt.
- To arrange.
These steps must be done continuously. First, when we see or hear something about our mate, it means that we know something about our mate. When we know it, and it is not like what we want or not acceptable, we must receive it. Maybe we will come to a condition that we must forgive him/her. After that, we must adapt with this condition, because a marriage is not about changing our mate to be like our expectations, but to adapt ourselves to cope with our mate.
After these series of adaptation, we arrange, we plan our future together.
These factors are for dating or marrying persons, for “a looking for a mate” person, there are some factors that can be a hint/reference whether the person we are fall in love is really our future. We can ask ourselves about:
- Will our parents and his/her parents agree?
- Will our spiritual mentor agree?
- Will our friends/environments agree?
- Does he/she support our vision?
A vision is not talk about our dream, a vision is rather like “where we must live” or “in what area we must work” than “i want to be an IT person and he/she must support it”. In example, in our vision, we must go and live in many cities, when he/she cannot support it, it is better to not continue the relationship.
